When things get complicated.

I lis­te­ned to this while wri­ting this post, try it while you read :o)

This is the fif­teenth in a series of posts reflec­ting on our willin­gness to remem­ber and the qua­li­ty of that know­ledge. These posts should be read in order of publi­ca­tion. Star­ting with num­ber six, for example, would make no sense to the rea­der. Hap­py reading!

In life, when things get com­pli­ca­ted, our stress levels increase. It is the ans­wer to our dis­com­fort. Our brains don’t like to make com­plex choices. Spe­ci­fi­cal­ly, it doesn’t like to lose, to lose some­thing. If the choice involves loss, our stress is sure to make an appea­rance. Going to the moun­tain first or the sea first, then the other one after­wards? Easy. Going to the sea OR to the moun­tains, without the pos­si­bi­li­ty of being able to do both? Dif­fi­cult. Choo­sing your dish at the res­tau­rant if eve­ry­thing tempts you. Choo­sing a car. Choo­sing a house. So many choices!

Final­ly, stress can also be cau­sed by a threat. What’s at stake? Our lives! The choice may be fatal. Some­times, no mat­ter the choice, the out­come would be the same. But our res­ponse is usual­ly limi­ted to two actions, fight or flight. In some cases, we might see a third option, hiding, clo­sing in on our­selves and hoping that the threat will pass. This third option is a recom­men­da­tion in the case of a mad shoo­ter in schools in the Uni­ted States.

A final option is socia­li­za­tion, empa­thic rea­so­ning. We are not tal­king about mali­cious mani­pu­la­tion here, but rather about human psy­cho­lo­gy. Open up to others to make them open up and toge­ther find a satis­fac­to­ry solu­tion. War­ning! In the pre­sence of a lethal threat, far be it from me to recom­mend this option, it is reser­ved for spe­cia­lists accom­pa­nying law enfor­ce­ment. But in a conflict like the one I men­tio­ned in the pre­vious post, socia­li­za­tion is, in my opi­nion, the only alternative.

To be continued…

-Dan­ny

I’m Dan­ny (aka Coa­ch­Dan­ny). I have a pas­sion: humans. Come with me and take this minute eve­ry day to explore what’s going on today and why is it tren­ding. Click here to get your dai­ly thought right on time for break­fast.

Sources: https://solomotivation.com

Trans­la­tion by Abbie Sims: https://www.linkedin.com/in/acsims/

Last Upda­ted on Decem­ber 1, 2020 by Coach Dan­ny