When you ask: How to make love?

Here is a small series of posts that cover the most asked ques­tions on Google. Most of these ques­tions won’t be ans­we­red here. Howe­ver, I might, for fun, give an ans­wer if I per­so­nal­ly know it. It’s most­ly to have fun with why people ask so many questions.

This is a very serious ques­tion. Let’s unders­tand here that we must first talk about love, and given how many things could be said on the sub­ject, it would be hard to know who would be able to cover it all in a mere 200 words. So, let’s just go for it.

If you fol­low my blog, you will start to unders­tand me and per­haps we will agree on cer­tain points. Love is a concept that, in my opi­nion, links seve­ral levels of our hie­rar­chy of needs. Love refers to our esteem, it refers to our sense of belon­ging and secu­ri­ty and even to our pri­ma­ry needs for some. Of course, to consi­der that the love you have for someone or that they have for you is based on mate­rial pos­ses­sions, well, that is a problem.

Let’s get back on track, if that same love pro­vides you with secu­ri­ty or belon­ging, it puts you out of balance and the same goes for self-esteem. It is in moments of fai­lure that we can make the best obser­va­tions. We can see that some people defend the foun­da­tions of a roman­tic rela­tion­ship in the context of oppres­sion or sub­mis­sion. We also see the sad­ness cau­sed by a rela­tion­ship that ends for some couples. But does this ulti­ma­te­ly mean that love, this power­ful fee­ling, only comes from a strong interdependence?

My opi­nion is that pure love, without the need for demons­tra­tion, is based on an exten­sion of our­selves and our deep values into the other per­son. This is extre­me­ly rare and can be culti­va­ted. So, making love for me is lite­ral­ly culti­va­ting or buil­ding love.

-Dan­ny

I’m Dan­ny (aka Coa­ch­Dan­ny). I have a pas­sion: humans. Come with me and take this minute eve­ry day to explore what’s going on today and why is it tren­ding. Click here to get your dai­ly thought right on time for break­fast.

Sources: https://solomotivation.com

Trans­la­tion by Abbie Sims: https://www.linkedin.com/in/acsims/

Last Upda­ted on Sep­tem­ber 10, 2021 by Coach Dan­ny